Jealousy is one of the most uncontrolled humans behaviour that humans have no control over there have been a lot of times when I had jealousy with my college friend or my friend had jealousy with me and those moments made it awkward and I wanted to disappear an ASAP there are few things and quick easy ways to fix the problem and turn your friendship into a solid one.
1. Disagreement On everything
Your college friends always point out whatever you do if they don’t like it either it’s a material or a job or any preference that you are choosing they will always come out saying that they don’t like it this kind of friends we said to be jealous of you because they can’t tolerate you having a better choice or right choice or being at a better position them in such cases you need to confront your college friend and tell them that it makes you awkward about it and if they’re jealous of it they can confront it and you guys can sort it in a better way.
2. Super competitive
Competition between friends is really good but when it happens in excess then it’s a toxic relationship. Ask your friend when your friend starts to get competitive on everything then you need to draw up a line and tell your friend that you can’t accept such behaviour. Competition is a reflection of a jealous friendship overall.
3. Super Negative
When your friend is jealous then your friend can be negative about everything you do. They somehow find a way to be negative about all the things you do in your life. All of your achievements will be a negative thing to point out in their life they will never be happy about whatever you do. This shows the underline jealousy and negative behaviour towards you that candy me you and make you a bit unmotivated in your life.
4. Dripping Insecurity
A jealous friend has jealousy. Your friend will be very insecure that you don’t go ahead in your life more than them. They will be telling you the wrong things if you ask them what clothes you should wear So, they will choose a bad one that can make you look bad and they can even tell you the wrong answer because they are so insecure about getting fewer marks than you. And in a way looking sure you look less attractive than them so they will push you into the wrong paths.
5. Happy on your Achievements
Jealous friend will never be happy about your achievements they will pretend that they are happy and congratulates you on a superior or surface level but they will never be happy that their friend is in a better position or celebrate with you in your big achievements or even a small achiever will just work out of the scenario or just disappears for 2-3 days. They are there at your sad moments but they will never celebrate with you on your happy days.
6. Discouragement
If you tell them any of your creative ideas or something good you are planning to do. But they will always discourage you and tell you that you will fail whatever you are planning to do. They dismiss your all achievements and they suppress your good qualities.
7. Self-Centered
When you talk about yourself they will find some of the other ways to make the discussion about them. You will find that at the end you guys end up talking about that person only. Whenever you try to say something they make the whole thing about them and start talking about themselves. This is not what true friendship is because true friends listen and tell everything.
8. Don’t Support You
They will never support you on anything. At the time when you need an ear to listen to you and sort your problems, they will never be there to sort any of your problems. They always run out whenever you are in need of them. They will trap you in a scenario and escape from that. They will try different methods to manipulate you so that you do things according to them.
True friendship is not like this you need to find better friends because nothing is as harmful as fake friends and you need to overcome that. You need to confront your friend about everything that you have been feeling their side and tells them that making awkward about the scenario and you need to tell them that if they don’t change you will part away from them because it’s putting a bad impact on you. A pure friendship is as good as heaven. So choose wiser friends that can make your life happy not something that is toxic and intolerable.
By: Ayushi Singh
