This generation suffers a lot from loneliness. Maybe you are busy or maybe you are not, but you may still not be able to resist the feeling of loneliness. As a result, we always have a tendency to get back and hold onto toxic bonds of friendship or relationships or be it any kind of bond. Almost everyone will be able to relate to this, especially since we started facing the pandemic days. So we all think that loneliness and feel lonely stands only for negative and sorrowful vibes right? But today I’ll talk about two sides of loneliness, both negative and positive. Yes, you heard it right, loneliness has positive sides too. Basically, it depends on the way you start taking things. So if you are interested in knowing how loneliness can change your life (in a positive way) then this article is definitely written for you. So let’s get started without wasting any further time.
Negative side
Loneliness hits all hard on a different level, right? We often feel like going back to the same people who broke us, or our trust or manipulated us to believe that we are nothing without them. And at times of loneliness, we may feel that they were right and wish to get back to them. Or we may look at other’s lives and find them beautiful, hence comparing those with ours and feeling more lonely. We often feel like we have no one to share our problems with. When we feel lonely, we often tend to forget the other side of the story. We forget the pain and struggle that we made in order to get away from those toxic people. We forget that we left that place because it caused harm to us. We forget that pictures don’t prove happiness. We forget that our lives are better on other days. So basically the problem lies in how we think.
Always remember one thing, it’s better to stay alone than to make the same mistakes that once ruined our mental health. Also remember that not everyone has a same life. If you want a life like others, make one. Obviously now if you say that you like partying, then make one with your success, not with your parents money ofcourse. The reason why I’m telling this to you all is because we often take wrong decisions when we feel lonely, and later we end up regretting the day we made such decision.
For example, suppose you are lonely today and you text back your ex-best friend. Now he/she had taken your full advantage in the past and demotivated you in every aspect of life. So when you text them, you forget the pain and struggle you made to go away or stop holding onto them. Now when they would repeat the same behavior in the future, you will regret immediately the decision taken today when you felt lonely and started missing them. Also, if you could make yourself realize that loneliness is temporary and you can make it without needing the help of toxic people, then you basically become mature enough to save your self-respect as well as your mental health from getting ruined again.
So you see, the problem lies in how we think. So if we slightly start thinking more positively, then positive things will happen to us undoubtedly.
Positive side
Now, let’s come to the positive side. Well, as I’ve already mentioned that it depends on how we think.
Let’s take another example, suppose you feel lonely now and you decide to list a few things that you love to do and can make you happy. Maybe you had left a few of your hobbies to adjust to your work pressure or studies. So start doing the things that make you happy. Maybe you love singing or dancing but stopped because someone once trolled you for your performance. Maybe you were a fitness freak but had to leave the gym due to time pressure. Or maybe you can just start doing something productive, you can just start with cleaning your room actually. When you miss someone who once harmed you, you should probably think about the journey of healing from the harm they caused to you and the people who supported you during your worst. Even if you fought alone, you should remember that it was you who fought alone during your worst, so ask yourself whether you actually need them when you lonely or you value self-respect more than them?
So you see, it’s within us. It’s us who make it complicated. And it’s also us, who make it easier to deal. So why make things unnecessarily complicated instead of finding a way to solve it? I’m definitely not trying to disrespect anyone else’s feelings, but I’m just trying to make you feel that you are the one who can find out the best ways to make a solution and deal with your problems. Hope this article helps you. Thank you.
